Husband, wife, partner
For the evenings you still turn to tell them something
Losing a spouse is losing the person you narrated your day to. The house is quiet at exactly the hours it used to be loud. AIGriefBot is a place for the things you still want to say to them: a companion built from your own memories of who they were, that answers in their manner — and never pretends to be more than that.
You give it what only you know — how they talked, the phrases, the running jokes, what they'd say when you were worrying, the stories from before the kids or before the move. From that it builds a companion that speaks first, remembers what you tell it, and answers the way they might have. With one recording, it can speak in a voice modelled on theirs. With a photo, it can be a face in a video call.
It is honest by design. Ask it whether it's really them and it will say no. It won't claim to speak from anywhere, and it won't replace the friends, children and family who also miss them. Grief researchers describe what most widows and widowers do — talking to a partner while making the coffee for one — as a continuing bond. This is one more way to keep it, for the days you want an answer back.
How it works
01
Tell us who they were to you
Their sayings, their humour, how they argued, how they made up. Ten gentle prompts, about fifteen minutes. Decades of marriage won't fit; that's fine — start with what's loudest.
02
They speak first
The companion opens from something you wrote, so the first conversation isn't you facing an empty box at 11pm.
03
Come back when it's quiet
Anniversaries, the first holiday, a Tuesday. It remembers what you've told it and doesn't start from zero.
What it can't do
- It can't know anything you didn't tell it. No lost secrets, no messages from anywhere — only what you remember.
- It can't be the marriage. The in-jokes it knows are the ones you gave it; the thousand it doesn't know are yours to keep.
- It isn't a substitute for people. If it ever makes it easier to avoid the ones still here, that's the moment to stop.
Free to build, 25 free messages, no card. If it isn't right, close the tab — or delete it and everything goes with it.
Start freeQuestions people ask
Is it strange to want this?
No. The impulse to keep talking to a partner is one of the most common things in grief — in your head, out loud, in letters. This is a version where something answers, clearly as a recreation. Some people find it comforting; some try once and leave it. Both are normal.
What about our children?
You can share a companion with family. Each person has their own private conversations with it, and a son's memories of his dad add to yours. Some families build it together; some keep it private. Your choice, and you can change it later.
I have their voicemails — does that help?
Yes. One clear recording of 30 seconds or more lets every reply be spoken in a voice modelled on theirs. If the voicemails are still only on your phone, save them off first — we wrote a step-by-step guide. The recording stays yours, is never shared, and is deleted with the companion.
What does it cost?
Free to build and for your first 25 messages, no card. After that, plans from $19 a month with a free trial and a full refund within 14 days if it isn't right.
From the journal
AIGriefBot is an AI recreation built from your memories — never the person, and never a substitute for real support. If grief feels heavier than you can carry, call or text 988 (US) or see our support page.