The journal
On grief, memory, and keeping people close
Plain writing for hard days. Practical where it can be, honest where it can't.
Is it healthy to talk to an AI version of someone who died?
The question people ask before they try it, answered by people who built one — what the grief research says, when it helps, when it doesn't, and how to check in with yourself.
Read the pieceHow to write a eulogy for a parent (when you can barely think)
You have a few days, a blank page, and a room full of people who loved them. A plain, step-by-step way to write a eulogy for your mother or father — what to include, what to leave out, and how to get through reading it.
ReadThe best grief bots in 2026: an honest comparison from people who make one
What's actually still available in 2026 if you want to talk with an AI version of someone you've lost, or record a parent's stories while you can. Prices, who each one is for, and the trade-offs, from a company that makes one.
ReadLooking for a HereAfter AI alternative? Save your recordings first
If you recorded a parent's stories on HereAfter AI, here's how to get those recordings somewhere safe, what to look for in a replacement, and an honest look at the options in 2026.
ReadWhat to do with old home videos of a parent who has died
The tapes in the closet are the only moving pictures of them you'll ever have — and they're quietly decaying. How to get them digitised, what to keep, and what you can do with their voice.
ReadGrief bots, explained: what they are, what they cost, and how to choose one
A plain guide to grief bots and memorial AI — how they're built, what they can and can't do, what they cost, the questions to ask any of them, and how to tell a careful one from a careless one.
ReadWhat is a "continuing bond" in grief? (And why you don't have to let go)
For most of a century, grief was supposed to end in letting go. Then researchers looked at what bereaved people actually do. Here's what a continuing bond is, where the idea came from, and what it means for you.
ReadThe first birthday after someone dies: what people actually do
Their birthday is coming and you don't know whether to mark it, ignore it, or hide. Here's what other grieving people do on the day, and why the dread is usually worse than the day itself.
ReadWhat to say to someone whose parent has died (and what not to)
You don't need the perfect words. You need to show up, say something true, and keep showing up after everyone else stops. Here's what actually helps, with real examples.
ReadHow to save text messages from someone who has died
Their texts are probably the most ordinary record you have of how they talked. Here is how to get them off the phone and somewhere safe — iPhone, Android, WhatsApp, and what to do with their phone.
ReadWhat an AI companion can and can't do for grief
An honest answer from the people who built one. Who it helps, who it doesn't, the risks we designed around, and the questions we'd want answered before trying it.
ReadIs it normal to still talk to someone who has died?
Yes. Talking to the dead — out loud, in your head, in letters — is one of the most common things grieving people do, and researchers have a name for why it helps.
ReadHow to save a voicemail from someone who has died (before your phone deletes it)
Most phones quietly delete voicemails after 30 days. Here is how to get theirs out of the phone and somewhere safe, step by step, on iPhone and Android.
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Getting through the holidays
The first holidays after a loss are often the hardest days of the year. These guides are about getting through them, gently and your own way.
When you're ready, keep their voice close
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